I’m the type of person who ponders, sometimes endlessly, about Life. I daydream, wonder and often times lose myself merely thinking of my existence. I refuse to be a part a mainstream society – albeit a difficult task to execute. Seemingly, though, I ooze the outward appearance of a typical Kuwaiti in terms of clothing, hangout places, and whatnot; however I am completely complex from within.
“What is Life?” A question that more than frequently crosses my mind and aids me in generating a life purpose, a cause for my sole existence. We live then ultimately die, but whatever happens in between will define our existence, and if fortunate, leave a fingerprint of our legacy when we’re long gone. It sickens me when I think of people in our society who live for nothing BUT materialistic, selfish and narcissistic purposes. I remember growing up and my mother and elder members of my family telling me anecdotes of how Kuwaiti’s back in the good old days used to live: one nation united for the love of one another. This was before the era when materialism, selfishness, greed and egotistical behaviors existed on a large scale, and especially before blindly adopting Westernized habits for the sake of showcasing status – and we are infamous for embracing these negative habits.
The Good Ol’ Days
I remember in the ’90s when practically everyone used to hangout with their families and cherish family-oriented activities, respecting other families and their space. Today, its like all hell broke loose. We have people who can’t wait to throw a punch at you for frivolous reasons, detesting you without even offering the chance to get to know you, talk behind your back and dig a ditch just to see you in utter misery and distress and all that for no apparent, significant reason. For the love of humanity, the animosity you have towards someone, for instance, you don’t know only reflects the quality of your upbringing and the type of unhealthy lifestyle you maintained as a child and within your uncivil household!
It’s like society and civilization is gradually fading. We’ve adopted individualistic disorders and habits: solely depending on ourselves and trespassing on others privacy, deliberately, and often times impulsively, lashing out on people whether it be via social networks or publicly and without meticulous judgment. Whatever happened to people giving others the benefit of the doubt and not jump the gun on judgmental accusations? Whatever happened to serenity, peace and the innate love we have for one another? I see it everyday. A lot of negativity exists, judgments, criticizes, injustice and whatnot. And, if, God forbid, your opinion doesn’t match someone elses then you’re in for a heap of trouble, blasphemy and subduing.
1. A friend of mine once told me how she smiled to a complete stranger at the mall (someone who is old enough to be her mother) and the woman took it so cynically, and gave her such an inhumane attitude. Even our religion, Islam, teaches us to smile as it is a good deed towards others!
2. Another acquaintance who was criticized for running an English-based, charity organization. Is that all that matters? What about the thousands of people this organization has offered life-changing experiences to? We fixate on tiny, trivial topics and ignore the bigger picture. Live and let live!
3. After tweeting a somewhat controversial post, which only seemingly had a negative tone to it, a female tweep outrageously ridiculed and subdued the person who posted it for the mere reason that SHE decoded, conceived and processed it in her own judgmental, biased and negative words (obviously indicative of her psychopathic mind, limited understanding and extremism), but after this male tweep offered clarification for his intention, the girl who lashed out on him felt embarrassed and obliged to apologize. Why pre-judge and translate thoughts negatively, and more importantly, who gives you the right to bash on others? Learn to respect others and their freedom of speech. Understand what THEY meant, not what YOU meant. In other words, don’t be a psycho, you psycho.
As Arabs, we fight prejudice, injustice, racism and Western-made stereotypes in order to preserve our culture, heritage, dignity and acclaimed pride to the world, but we fail to realize that we judge and criticize each other with extreme prejudice. If we cant be good to each other, how, the, will we be able to prove to the world that we are civilized?
I, for one, chose to give life a meaning. My life, at least. There exists a flabbergasting amount of negativity within people. For a better living, and for the love of God, let’s try to at least act civilized, treat others with dignity and respect and try to forgive. I sound like a philosophical wise elderly man, who has spent all his life accumulating patience, forgiveness and the meaning of life. Unfortunately, I’m not.
All I wish for is a society that will perpetuate what this country and its ancestors lived for, attempted to preserve and revive a better living for the sake of my future, children’s and the many generation to come into existence.
I choose to be happy for a reason: a civilized, better living. There is more to life than the mere car you drive, clothes and accessories you wear, First-Class tickets you feel so compelled to flaunt to a room full of people who do NOT care, constant negativity, hatred you have towards someone you haven’t even met…
Give a definite meaning to your life.